Wednesday, April 22, 2020

Quarantine Life & Beautiful State of Mind



Happy April! It's been such a crazy couple of months especially during the Coronavirus and this new quarantine life. I've been dealing with so many emotions as I'm sure many of you are going through the same mindset. When is this going to end? When can I return back to my normal life? When can I see my family & friends and not have to worry about social distancing? When do the kids go back to school? These are all "normal" feelings that most of  us our feeling and struggling with. I can definitely empathize with these feelings & emotions right now. It is so challenging having to work full time & also homeschool your child if your a parent. I'm a teacher by trade and I am still struggling homeschooling my own two kids. Therefore, I've been keeping track of when I have good days and bad days. I've been mentally making a list of what helps me when I'm having an off day. During this difficult time that we are ALL facing, I wanted to share some tips that I have been incorporating in my daily routine. These are things that I have done that has helped me get out of a funk or when I am feeling anxious. There are definitely days that are easier than others. At this time, I have learned to just take it day by day.

  • Go for walk/hike 

Hiking has definitely been a life saver for me during this time when we are forced to stay inside. I've been trying to go on hikes and as many hikes as I can especially since we will be hitting 100 degrees this weekend. Living in AZ in the summer is definitely challenging with the extreme heat. I also learn to appreciate the beauty of nature. It is absolutely gorgeous in the desert. I'm so obsessed with the Saguaro cacti and just the quietness of nature. Bonus: Hiking/walking also helps get my kids out and moving and tires them out. It also a great way to incorporate P.E. in our daily life. We try to do a daily walk at least once a day to help them get their wiggles out as well as help me reset when I am feeling frustrated.

  • Biking

Nothing feels more nostalgic, than riding your bicycle. Until this pandemic, I can't remember the last when I was on a bicycle. But once I got on my bike, I remember how much I loved riding it. Not only are getting your exercise in, but the wind and breeze you feel when you ride your bike instantly puts you in a better mood. I also am able to explore parts of my neighborhood that I normally would not venture out too. I've also took my kids to different trails around AZ.  The added bonus is my boys love riding their bicycles. It also gives us time to bond as a family and create wonderful memories. I'm hoping that when this pandemic is over, they remember the times we went out and rode our bicycles.

  • Cooking
Cooking can definitely be tricky during this time since the grocery stores have limited stock on certain items. Because of this, it also makes cooking so much more fun. You really have to be creative on what you have at hand. Now is the time to experiment with flavors that you've been wanting to try. Cooking has been a distraction for me and has helped reduce my anxiety as I'm focusing on the task at hand (also know as not trying to burn the house down) than focus on the pandemic or things I cannot control. I highly suggest cooking and finding ingredients that you have to make your favorite dish. There are so many recipes online and that I have found on Instagram that has helped me with cooking. Cooking is another way to bond with your family. My kids love cooking and has helped me with breakfast.

  • Breath, Breath, Breath (Taking it Day by Day)

When my anxiety start to increase, I instantly take a deep breath and remind myself this is not FOREVER, but temporary. When I start to think too much in the future, I start to get a panic attack. I've been taking it day by day and sometimes hour by hour. With the challenges of working from home, homeschooling, meltdowns & so much more it is so easy to throw in the towel. Trust me, there are so many days that I feel so overwhelmed. When I start to feel this way, I take a step back, breathe and redirect my mind to see all the positives in life. Sometimes it helps to write it down on a post it so that you can see it and it serves a daily reminder that you can handle anything!

  • Staying Active
Staying active has also been a game changer for my mood and mindset. When I am feeling in a funk, I immediately get up and move to change my mood. Staying active could mean turning on your favorite music or playlist to dance to, doing jumping jacks in your living room, yoga, or just moving to keep your heart rate up. I promise if you just do 15 minutes to get up and move it will instantly put yo in a better mood.

  • FaceTime/Talking to Friends & Family 

I highly encourage talking to your family and friends via FaceTime, Zoom or any other app to see that personal connection that you have been missing. I immediately start to see my mood change after FaceTiming my nephew, talking to my best friend. Social distancing doesn't mean social disconnect. It's so important to reach out to our family and friends during this pandemic. Just a simple phone call can really cheer someone up. It also lets them know that you care.

  • Create a Beautiful & Positive Mindset (Tony Robins)

Yesterday, my really good friend invited me to a zoom webinar of Tony Robins. If you have not heard of Tony Robins, I highly suggest you check him out. He is absolutely amazing and a positive motivational speaker. During the webinar they talked about a beautiful mindset and ending suffering. Suffering is a vicious cycle that we all endure and it is a choice. Being happy is also a  choice. Instead of focusing on the trauma of an event and choosing to suffer, he challenges you to change that mindset and not to be a victim of trauma. So what does that mean? What does that look like? One of the audience member in Tony Robins' presentation shared a story about her surviving a terrible terrorist attack and how much trauma it brought to her life. She talked about having nightmares, going through therapy and it controlling her life and how she wanted to release the suffering.  Tony suggested that we end this suffering by shifting our mindset. When you feel love, joy, gratitude, playfulness, caring, or appreciation you're in a beautiful state. In this state, you know exactly what to do & you do the right thing. In this sate, your heart and spirit is alive. You feel no fear or frustration. You are at ease. On the contrary, when you're feeling stressed out, worried, frustrated, angry, depressed, resentful, you're in a suffering state. You are angry, in a bad mood, make irrational decisions, and very unhappy. So, how do you change this? How do you live in a beautiful state ALL  the time? The secret is practice makes perfect. YOU have to train your mind to shift and not be a victim of your past. YOU have to live in the PRESENT! Not the PAST or FUTURE. Happiness is what you make NOW. We also did an exercise after the webinar that has really helped me. It's from the Hawaiian Forgiveness Ritual: 


I love you.
I'm sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you. 

For the exercise, we were asked to say this phrase aloud and repeat several times when we felt fearful, anxiety fear, frustration, depressed, unhappy in essence in a negative mind set. Then we were asked to close our eyes and repeat the phrase a few more times. After doing that, we were asked to close our eyes and picture our heart contracting as we say the words. This exercise has helped instantly decrease my anxiety levels from a 10 to about a 4 just repeating these words. I highly suggest this exercise when you are feeling anxious, negative, or just not yourself. Give yourself grace and repeat these words. I LOVE YOU. I'M SORRY. PLEASE FORGIVE ME. THANK YOU. You are amazing and BEAUTIFUL!

 I hope you find these tips helpful and I would love to hear how you are doing during this quarantine period.  What has been helping you keep afloat and sane? Remember, we are all in this together. It's okay to have bad days and to cry.  We all do!  It's okay to miss your old life and wish things will go back to normal. But I challenge you to think about what was "normal" when this pandemic and quarantine life is over. Also to stop and enjoy the little things in life that you can do. Don't forget to stay home and be safe. I also wanted to thank all the medical workers, grocery store workers and others on the frontline that are keeping us safe so that I can stay home and be with my family! Thanks for stopping by! Have a great week ahead! Xo

Wednesday, March 18, 2020

Positive Mind Set! You got this!

Outfit Details: Floral shorts|| White top (sold out) similar look here & here || Sunglasses  (currently on SALE) || Hair clip|| Gucci Mini Dionysus  || Leopard Sandals || Earrings 


It's been awhile since I posted on my blog. I've been feeling unmotivated to blog for awhile now and have been wanting to write about something that I deeply care about. Of course, I'm always a fashion enthusiast and always looking for the best trends and deals, but I wanted my blog to be more than that especially during the epidemic of the Coronavirus forcing us to quarantine and stay at home, I wanted to share some of the ways that I have been coping and how important it is to keep a positive mind set. This may seem extremely difficult right now since there is so much fear and anxiety of the unknown. The news and social media doesn't help the situation either.  Here are 5 tips that have helped me stay positive during this difficult time and I hope that it helps you cope during this time of uncertainty.

1. Try to find the positive in every situation and silver lining in everything you do. 

Trust me this is extremely hard right now, but you have to train your mind and choose to be happy and finding things you are happy about.  When I wake up in the morning, I try to think of something positive to get me through the day. For example, I'm healthy and I'm alive. I have a roof over my head and my boys are healthy. I know it's not ideal that school is closed, but I am using this time to connect with my boys and enjoy this time of slowing down and not having to rush to the next thing. I also suggest writing 5 things you are grateful for everyday and post it on your mirror or on a sticky note so that when you are frustrated you can read it remind you how lucky you are to be alive and healthy.

2. Surround yourself with positive and like minded people. 

Without the support of my family and friends, life will be extremely hard. I like to surround myself with people who are uplifting and who support and inspire me. Social media can also be a great platform for you to connect with likeminded people. I love this quote from Jen Sincero's book, You are a Badass Every Day: "Whatever we've got on repeat becomes our "reality" -what we look at every day, our thoughts, what we read, listen to, talk about, tell ourselves, etc.  This "repetition is reality concept is the reason that repeating affirmations is so effective, why looking at your vision board over and over is so powerful; why hanging out with kick-ass people who talk about kick-assery is so important. Take a stock of what you've got on auto-loop, and upgrade anything that's not supporting you in your quest for greatness."

3. Meditate, Mediate, Mediate

I'm going to be honest with mediation, I was very skeptical at first, but the more you practice meditating the better you become with controlling your thoughts. Mediation can sound daunting and a challenge to many especially if you are like me who is always on the go and whose mind is always racing a mile a minute and juggling and thinking about what to do next. Mediation helps slow down your mind and reset. Mediation can simply be just breathing. When I was going through therapy, my therapist suggested the 1, 4, 2 breathing technique which is inhale for one count, hold you breath for 4 counts and exhale for 2 counts. This breathing technique works wonders. I also suggest using Mediation apps and YouTube videos that can help guide you through mediation. In Sincero's book, she refers to imagine "smelling the rose". "When you smell a rose, you inhale all the way down to the bottom of your feet, you close your eyes, you're focused on the moment, you relish the breath, you fully expand." Remember to smell the roses as often as you can.

4. Take some "me" time to do something you absolutely love.

What does it mean during this quarantine time? It means take that long bath that you've been wanting to do. Pamper yourself with things that you love. Reality TV, binge watching NetFlix or starting that hobby or trying that recipe that you've been wanting to try. The possibilities are endless. Only you know what YOU love and now is the time to take advantage of that.

5. Keep a Journal of Gratitude and Positive Affirmations 

Journaling can be such a great way to write down your feelings and any anxiety that you are going through. When I was going through therapy, my therapist highly suggested that I wrote down 5 things I am grateful for each morning and before I went to bed. It can simply be "I am grateful to breathe. I am grateful to wake up today. I am grateful for my family/dog/friend etc. Writing down these positive gratification will instantly help increase your mood.

Positive affirmations also will help you stay positive. The more you read it the more it becomes your reality and truth. Here are some positive affirmations that help me that I found in Sincero's book that has helped me:

"I deserve and expect good things."

"If you run from your fears, they will follow you. If you run straight at your fears, they will get the hell out of the way. Fears hate when you do that."

"You are beautiful."

"When you stand up for yourself, you give everyone the opportunity to grow taller too. "

I hope you find these tips helpful and if you have any other tips that help you stay positive. I would love to hear them. I also highly recommend reading positive and motivational books. I love Wayne Dyer and Jen Sincero's book. I will link some below that you can read to help you stay positive. Remember, everything is temporary and together we shall get through this. Thanks for stopping by and I hope to start blogging more frequently now that school is cancelled until further notice. Stay safe, healthy, and strong! Xo

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