Monday, April 1, 2019

Happy April! New month, New Perspective!



Happy April 1st! I hope everyone had a great weekend. I'm excited about a new month and changing my perspective on what defines happiness. For those of you that have followed me for awhile, I took a year off on Instagram last year. I went through a very difficult and dark time. I'm not ready to share exactly what I went through and I promise I will once I'm ready or have made a decision on what I want to do. I appreciate the support that everyone has given me. During that dark period last year, not only did I learned a lot about myself, but I learned who my true friends were. It's really sad that it takes going through hardships to test true friendships. I also wanted to say "thank you" to all those who have reached out to me during my absence on social media. 
In the past year, I have learned a lot about myself and how important it is to practice self-care and self-love. I feel like I have put others before me and I really lost who I was hence that's why I started my blog. I'm not telling you that I have it all figured out now, because believe me I don't. I'm still a work in progress and I'm finally learning that it's "okay" to be a mess. I have learned that everyone's timeline is different and comparison is really the thief of joy and happiness. I mentioned it before, but really want to hit this one home by reminding and telling myself that social media is not an accurate portrayal of anyone's life. It's the highlights and the best of someone. It is absolutely not their worst moments. Because I didn't want to share my worst moments publicly, I took a break from social media because I just couldn't deal with it all. I cancelled my personal Facebook account and I am still no longer active on it, because I couldn't deal with seeing everyone so happy while I was miserable, depressed and not myself. So when you see beautiful photos on Instagram, don't forget that they are sometimes staged and the highlight of someone's life. Here are 3 things that I have done that have helped reset my mind when it wanders to the dark side. :) 

1. Yoga

Yoga has been a life saver for me. I don't think physically and mentally I could have survived what I went through if it wasn't for practicing yoga. Not only is yoga beneficial for your health, but it also helps reset your mind and helps you focus on the present. I was very angry and kept dwelling on the past. Yoga helped remind me to live in the "present" and to let things go. I know it's easier said than done and I practice this constantly. If you are uncomfortable going to the gym or a Yoga studio, I suggest going on YouTube and practicing at home. It's also free and you can practice when it's most convenient for you. I promise yoga works wonders! Not only will your body feel good but your mind will as well.

2. Therapy 

Through this dark time, my friends and family recommend that I go see a therapist. Believe me at first I was so against it. I felt like there was such a stigma towards going to therapy. Initially, I  was very skeptical. I thought only people who were "weak" or had severe mental illness went to a therapist. I'm so glad I was totally wrong. Seeing my therapist was the best money I spent and the best investment in bettering "me" and focus on things that "I" needed to work on.  Luckily my insurance paid for most of my sessions. I recommend finding a therapist that you can connect with. Also, to give him/her at least 3 sessions to really see if he/she is a good fit for YOU. Through my therapy I was able to learn things about myself that I never did. It also helped me put things in perspective while my whole world was falling apart. 

3. Self-Love & Care

This is one is the most important one that I've learned is that YOU control your own happiness. The more you rely or depend or others to keep you happy, the more disappointed you will become. So you're probably asking what does self-care and self-love look like? For me, self-care is taking care of YOU 1st. If it means go getting a mani and pedi then go for it. If it means going for a walk with the dog or walking by yourself. It could mean reading your favorite book, listening to your favorite music or watching your favorite movie. Only YOU can know what it means to take care of YOU. If you are a new mom, it can be mean as simple as going to take a bath by YOURSELF. Not only did I learn that you need to take care of yourself, you also have to learn to love yourself. No one can love you more than YOU. If you don't love yourself, it's impossible for others to love YOU. Here is one of my favorite quotes that I love from "The Good Quote"

5 things to quit:
1. Trying to please everyone
2. Fearing change
3. Living in the past
4. Putting yourself down
5. Overthinking

I hope you enjoyed reading this post. It's not your usual fashion post, but this is something that I've been wanting to share for awhile and I hope it helps you if you are going through a difficult time. I hope April is a month of blessings for you! Cheers to a new month, new beginning and endless possibilities! Xo


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